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Keep your coins, I want change.
A smart girl would have run the other way; but frankly, I don’t know whether I’m smart or foolish at this point.
I’m attracted to the charity cases. The men who are having a rough go of things; the ones who are perhaps a little jaded, but who need someone that’s not going to give up on them. I’ve been told by close friends that there are just some hopeless cases out there who don’t want to, and thus never will, change. But change is a funny thing.
To change is a verb. It’s a decision. It’s an action that must be carried out by the person intending to change.
But some of us are just so set in our ways that even wanting to change is like a declaration of war: the conscious mind and the heart together on the eastern front, habits and fears dominating on the western front. It’s an impossible battle. One that, in some cases can take a lifetime.
Fortunately, the presence of a single outside party can be the difference between winning that battle now, or winning it years from now. A shoulder, a late night phone call, a few reassuring words, are sometimes enough. Because when it comes down to it, almost all we wish to change are the things we don’t like about ourselves; our insecurities. In the end it’s just a matter of confidence. And when someone else believes in us, suddenly we have the support to take on our personal challenges. And triumph!
Too little, too…
You think I would have learned
from all my past mistakes;
the aches and pains at night
that keep me wide awake.
You’d think that maybe someday
my timing would improve.
What’s the harm in trying?
What have I to lose?
So now I sit here waiting,
‘til I see your handsome face
caref’lly contemplating
my most recent chance.
I’m hoping I’ve not blown it,
Im hoping there’s still time;
time to find the words I need
and use the words I find.
Wisdom # 6: Little Things
Life is really all about the little things. There are so many small accomplishments, and tiny comforts throughout any given day. A hearty, homemade lunch packed to take to work; a made bed; an financially savvy decision… These are all little things that add up. So be proud of yourself for all the little things you do in a day; little things that maybe don’t mean much to anyone else, but things that make you happy. For me, these are things like:
- cooking a healthy, tasty meal
- organizing a drawer that was overflowing with crap
- putting hot water in my mug to heat up the ceramic before pouring my tea; that way I have a nice warm mug to hold
These little things may mean nothing to anyone except for myself, but at the end of the day it doesn’t matter. These little things make me happy; they make me proud. And although big accomplishments are fantastic, they don’t happen every day. That’s why we need to relish in the small things. It’s the little things that keep us going.
Wisdom # 5: Life is about the moments
Our lives are made up of moments; like a collage of snapshots, capturing a vast array of emotions and experiences, both exceptional and unfortunate. Although we cannot always control our circumstances, we can control our reactions and outlooks. So make your moments count for something.
Maybe…
Maybe it’s not letting someone love me that’s the issue. Maybe I’m not frightened of having someone care about me. I think I’m scared of what I’m capable of in terms of love. Suddenly, I see how much I can love. And that freaks me out.
At least when I love someone who doesn’t love me back, there’s a limit. There are barriers, which don’t allow me to love to the fullest extent I can. I don’t know how much I can love.
So maybe I’m not scared of what I thought… maybe I’m not scared at all.
It’s a very comforting thought.
Maybe I’m not scared at all… :)
Passion. It lies in all of us. Sleeping … waiting … and though unwanted, unbidden, it will stir … open its jaws and howl. It speaks to us … guides us. Passion rules us all. And we obey. What other choice do we have? Passion is the source of our finest moments. The joy of love … the clarity of hatred … the ecstasy of grief. It hurts sometimes more than we can bear. If we could live without passion, maybe we’d know some kind of peace. But we would be hollow. Empty rooms, shuttered and dank. Without passion, we’d be truly dead.
JOSS WHEDON
Things You May Never Have Known or Thought About…
1. At least five people in this world love you so much they would die for you.
2. At least fifteen people in this world love you in some way.
3. The only reason anyones would ever hate you is because they want to be just like you.
4. A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don’t like you.
5. Every night, someone thinks about you before they go to sleep.
6. You mean the world to someone.
7. If not for you, someone may not be living.
8. You are special and unique.
9. Someone that you don’t even know exists loves you.
10. When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good comes from it.
11. When you think the world has turned its back on you, take a look: you most likely turned your back on the world.
12. When you think you have no chance of getting what you want, you probably won’t get it, but if you believe in yourself, probably, sooner or later, you will get it.
13. Always remember the compliments you recieved. Forget the rude remarks.
14. Always tell soemone how you feel about them; you will feel much better when they know.
What can you add to this list?
(Source: boardofwisdom.com)
Wisdom # 4: Right here, right now.
The past isn’t a good thing to hang onto. Because when you hang onto the past, it tends to give you ideas and expectations for the future.
The thing about the past is that you can’t change it. It happened. And whether it was amazing or horrible, that’s the way it was. But it is no more. The past will never be the reality of the present. This is great news when it comes to the crappy times we all have dealt with at some point or another. Everyone, should let out a little cheer; those situations will never happen again exactly as they once did. We have, hopefully, learned from our hardships and we will never make the same mistakes again. However, those life experiences will never leave us; they will always hold sway with us.
Many great thinkers have said that our past does not need to dictate our future. Whenever we hear this, we all think to the bad things we have experienced and say to ourselves, “I won’t let myself be jaded as a result of what I have dealt with.” But we never seem to think about the great things we experience. What about the time you made a new friend? What about the time you first realized you had fallen in love with someone? Those magical moments in our lives are never what our minds go to. But perhaps they should…
Great memories are just as guilty of stealing our present as our negative memories. If we hang on to ideas generated from positive situations, relationships, and experiences in the past, we are too focused on what we want to happen in the future. We miss what is going on in the present. I’ll use myself as an example. I have spent too much time looking back on the beginning of a friendship; it was fantastic, it was almost like a love. I have been hanging onto the idea that this one friend is the man I am going to marry. Whether that is true or not, I won’t know for some time. But the problem with my hanging onto this idea is that I am oblivious to other opportunities presented to me right NOW.
This aforementioned friend of mine has, on many occasions, told me that you never know what is going to happen in the future. As much as we may have an idea of what we want to happen in our lives, there are so many factors over which we have no control. The only thing we can really do is live right here, right now. We need to remember the good times fondly, and learn from our hardships, but we must not hold tightly to either. Otherwise we might miss out on the world, as it is right now.
“Don’t let the past steal your present” – Cherralea Morgen
